Self Reflection and Children

Help Kids to Develop Reflective Skills

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Self reflection is a skill that children of all ages need to develop. This is a skill that will help kids in adulthood in many ways including developing their self-esteem. Being reflective means being able to think about what you have done, why and if it was effective.

If children can adapt their behavior after reflecting on what went well or not well. Those that can will hold a worthy skill.

There are various ways to promote self reflection skills.

Journal writing is a very effective way to start these skills. By writing down what they are thinking and feeling kids will be able to review and contemplate on their actions and reactions.

The missing piece of the puzzle is found here. Children need to learn to develop self questioning skills as another important way they can develop their reflective skills.

Questions to Develop Self Reflection in Children

  • How do I feel?
  • How did I feel earlier in the day, yesterday or the week before?
  • Why do I feel this way?
  • Why did I act in a certain way? What prompted me to act like that?
  • What does this tell me about myself?
  • What can I learn from this situation?
  • If I am in this situation again, what would I do the same and what would I do differently
  • Activities to Promote Children's Self-Reflection Skills

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    Mirror Activity

    Give your child a hand mirror. Ask them think about a recent event that made them (use different words happy, proud, sad, disappointed) while looking in the mirror. Ask them to think about the event and what they did, what went well, what didn't and how they will handle a similar event in the future. It will be easier for many children to do this while looking at themselves in the mirror rather talking directly to a parent.

    Two stars and a Wish

    This is a simple activity you can incorporate into most daily events. After vent, for example, a sports game, a test or completing a project, ask your child to tell you two stars and a wish, that is two things that went well and they are happy with and one thing they want to improve.


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