Conflict Management - Build Emotional Intelligence SkillsHelping your Children Manage their Conflicts EffectivelyHow does your child handle conflict? Conflict management is an important skill that every child should learn from a young age. When children experience conflict lots of different emotions may rush through them including anger, rage, sadness, jealousy or a host of others.
You can help your child to learn to handle conflict well. Teach your child these steps of conflict management and they will learn that every conflict has two sides. Each person should
Active listening
is an important goal here.2. Ask your child to listen carefully and try to put themselves in the others shoes. Practicing
empathy
is essential. 3. Speak using words like "I feel...." Do not use words like "You made me..." 4. Take turns speaking. Children can take turns holding an object so to make speaking easier. Who every is holding the object talks. Be sure to take turns holding the object. This can be timed if need be. 5. After both children are clear about what the problem is. They need to work together to find a solution. 6. Think of ideas and share them with each other. 7. Agree on a solution. 8. Put the solution into action. There are some pointers to ensure children follow to make the conflict resolution successful. 1. No name calling- don't say anything to the other person that could hurt their feelings School should be encouraged to include conflict management and mediation or negotiation programs for students. 
Remember conflict does not go away if you ignore it, it is best to deal with the issue and find a resolution. Both parties need to compromise in order to find a resolution. Ensure you child is not being
bullied
as this is a different type of conflict with different resolutions and strategies. Help Your Child through a Divorce
Divorce is one of the biggest conflicts. In this case a resolution to go separate ways can mean a host of feelings for the children involved.
Divorce is sometimes a high conflict situation and children often feel caught in the middle. Get Attachment Parenting Info for High Conflict Situations like Divorce to help your children express themselves and be heard in divorces. Here are other pages you may like:
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